as i was saying in my previous post, i am unsure how some ppl think of and perceive friendship?? is friendship only for fun??? do u leave your friends cos they're no fun, annoying or in trouble?? (well.. sometimes you do these things but when done correctly, you can make sure that ur friend remains your friends) so i'll give you a situation....
say that for the past few years you've been 'hanging' with the same group... and for the last year, you've been staying in the same house with these 4 girls.... naturally, when you are going to move to another house@place, you will make the assumption that you will follow the 'gang'!!! is this not true??? of course it is.... if you were really friends!! lets say that you're 'A'... and we'll just label the hsemates 'B' and a mutual friend 'C'...
the situation has been spelt out....it goes like this.... (this is paraphrasing okie... better yet my version of what happened!!)
B to C : aku nak pindah dengan housemate aku ... tapi aku rasa aku tak nak bawak A lar sebab dia tu *macam ni, macam tu*.... so boleh tak ko carikan rumah untuk geng aku? C to A : sem depan ko tinggal dengan sapa? A to C : dengan sapa lagi, dengan B lar.... C to A : ohh... tapi haritu waktu B mintak tolong aku carikan rumah untuk dia, dia cakap dia tak nak tinggal dengan ko... tu yang aku confius nie... A to C : **************** so this situation is beyond shitty in my estimation... cos did B expect A to telepathically know that they planned to leave her behind? they didn't even tell A... so now.. whenever you see A, she is usually alone... when she used to be surrounded by her friends~~~ it's pretty sad really...
i get where B is coming from but they should've told her direct!!! i did it with a friend, explained why i will never be able to stay with her (we always bicker you see!!).... but i did it to her face!!!! at the same time, i think she understood why.... and i think we'll stay friends... cos i know that if we moved in together, more likely that i will begin to dislike her.... better to stay apart!! right??? hehehe