as i was saying b4...

as i was saying in my previous post, i am unsure how some ppl think of and perceive friendship?? is friendship only for fun??? do u leave your friends cos they're no fun, annoying or in trouble?? (well.. sometimes you do these things but when done correctly, you can make sure that ur friend remains your friends) so i'll give you a situation....

say that for the past few years you've been 'hanging' with the same group... and for the last year, you've been staying in the same house with these 4 girls.... naturally, when you are going to move to another house@place, you will make the assumption that you will follow the 'gang'!!! is this not true??? of course it is.... if you were really friends!! lets say that you're 'A'... and we'll just label the hsemates 'B' and a mutual friend 'C'...

the situation has been spelt out....it goes like this.... (this is paraphrasing okie... better yet my version of what happened!!)

B to C : aku nak pindah dengan housemate aku ... tapi aku rasa aku tak nak bawak A lar
sebab dia tu *macam ni, macam tu*.... so boleh tak ko carikan rumah untuk geng
aku?


C to A : sem depan ko tinggal dengan sapa?
A to C : dengan sapa lagi, dengan B lar....
C to A : ohh... tapi haritu waktu B mintak tolong aku carikan rumah untuk dia, dia cakap
dia tak nak tinggal dengan ko... tu yang aku confius nie...
A to C : ****************

so this situation is beyond shitty in my estimation... cos did B expect A to telepathically know that they planned to leave her behind? they didn't even tell A... so now.. whenever you see A, she is usually alone... when she used to be surrounded by her friends~~~ it's pretty sad really...

i get where B is coming from but they should've told her direct!!! i did it with a friend, explained why i will never be able to stay with her (we always bicker you see!!).... but i did it to her face!!!! at the same time, i think she understood why.... and i think we'll stay friends... cos i know that if we moved in together, more likely that i will begin to dislike her.... better to stay apart!! right??? hehehe

friendship?~~

i was just thinking.... what does friendship mean to me?? i guess i am really VERY VERY picky when it comes to making friends.... i don't like to meet new ppl so its really hard to make new friends (i am wut u can say socially inept!!) i don't actually give off a great 1st impression.... like for example once i met a friends bf and he straight away said (based on what is on my face) " why? u don't look happy to see me??".. i mean WTF??!!! It's a first meeting!!!! of course i have to size u up 1st!!!

i'm funny that way.... once someone said that i scared them based on 1st impression alone... (it's very rare!! maybe i was pms-ing at the time??) haih.... i guess you can say that friends are important to me but yet i never made any true friends until after high school!!! (i noe it's a bit pathetic!!! but i really dun have many special high school memories~~~ my loss i guess!!) i realized later that i need friends but i only want or need TRUE friends!!! how do i decide who my friends are???

that's a dilemma that i think i've solved!!! now, when i meet new ppl i just tend to go with my gut feeling which is 95% reliable!!! and i simply do not i repeat DO NOT hang out in cliques... too much politics u noe~~ (esp malay cliques!!! not that i can relate**) back to my original topic!!! what is friendship to me?

friendship... i guess to me it's like a lifelong commitment!!! you don't just dump your friends if they've wronged you.. you discuss the issues (once you've calmed down @ let ur friends calm down!!) and treat it as a discussion instead of a forum of finger pointing and emotional outbursts!!! it's hard but as girls you tend to be emo... just tone it down a lil!! i guess i'd like to think that friends are forever even if i noe 1 day we might go separate ways but at least ur still friends no matter how long has gone by (I <3 Nor Alia!! one of my first confidants!!!)

if you've got a problem with ur friend, u dun leave her behind to realize by herself that u've decided to leave her behind (in an activity or sumthing!) or hear from another source that ur planning to leave her behind!!! this is actually disturbing... if u are friends, just tell her y?? and hopefully if ur friendship is as important to her she will accept it!!! i dunno i might be wrong in my way of thinking~~ wut do u think?

actually i have many thoughts on this topic but it'll have to wait!! i am supposed to be studying for my anesthesiology exam!!!! wish me luck for my finals tomorrow!!!! last paper!!!! then i can go home and celebrate... oh and to mia!!!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY (tomorrow!)!!! i'll belanja u mkn so think what u want to mkn okie??